Comments on: How to debug a disagreement and focus on what matters

By: sema

sema — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 16:17:58 +0000

we must remove distractions to get clarity and focus on the present–the post reminds you to do it ! good article.

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By: Tammy Lenski

Tammy Lenski — Fri, 30 May 2008 12:47:03 +0000

Hey there, Christine. I appreciate your connecting my story and a couple of Covey’s habits — those connections make sense and add to my thinking. And yes, it was non-Deet repellent.

Louise, glad to hear the crane made it north safely. I like your comment about finding a soothing balm to reactivity…that’s a terrific image addition for my story.

Thanks to both of you for stopping by.

By: Louise Ross

Louise Ross — Fri, 30 May 2008 11:41:40 +0000

As I was reading your story this morning I imagined the buzzing, and thought of distractions like all the “shoulds” and “musts” that can irritate a situation when I’m in disagreement or conflict. They, like those New Hampshire mozzies, add stress and make me anxious and judgmental. Writing in my journal about the reactivity I’ve experienced is the soothing balm that stops the itch. Having a reactivity-repellant on hand in the moment would help a lot.

I received your gift of a crane yesterday. Thank you for plotting its flight plan all the way north into Canada!

I love Conflict Zen. Keep up the good work Tammy!

By: Christine Kane

Christine Kane — Thu, 29 May 2008 13:36:51 +0000

The mosquitoes analogy is like so many things in our lives. Kind of like ol’ “Important but not urgent” approach to priorities. Or “first things first.” Stop. Take the time out to cut out the distraction. Get back on course. (Hopefully you used non-deet repellent! ) Great story!

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